You give birth to the most beautiful little boy. He’s so innocent. He can do no wrong. He grows up normally. You cook him outstanding meals. He treats you well because you’re his mom. He may get a little wild with his friends, but they are five, it’s normal. At least that’s what you tell yourself. Boys will be boys, right? No, not right. You can raise your son to be a gentleman. To treat women with respect. To not tease the girls at school.
It’s hard because you want your child to be tough enough to stand up for themselves, but you don’t want them to be so tough, they become a bully. You need to teach them confidence and self-respect. You need to explain to them that every one of their actions has an effect on others. You need to teach them how to behave. It’s not just something they will grow into.
You know you hear all those stories of those college students who end up raping their friends at an off-campus party. Those men used to be the little sweet boys in their cribs. What happened in their lives that made them feel so entitled to take control of a woman? Something must have gone amiss. They weren’t born a rapist, they became one over the years.
If we want the world to be a better place, we need to better parents. Don’t ignore your child’s behavior and say it’s just their age. Reprimand the. Teach them how one should act. Do you want your daughters growing up in a world with the boys you barely raised? Children need direction. If you expect them to just learn right and wrong from their friends, you are in for a rough ride.
I have a friend or ex-friend that comes from a wealthy family. He got arrested for stealing a bike. What a moron! He could have easily bought a bike ten times better than the one he tried to steal but no, he just wanted to steal something it didn’t matter that he has one just like it at home. He also stole it with a fake, toy gun. That was the real reason he went to jail. Was he born an idiot? No, he became that. His parents gave him the cold shoulder for one to many years and it landed him where he is today. In and out of prisons and rehab. Is it for attention? I don’t know. He just likes living life on the edge.
To sum it all up, the boys you raise become men. Whether they are good or bad people has a lot to do with you. I know you don’t want to take any responsibility, but it’s true. You need to give them direction and an endless amount of love. You need to tell them when they are wrong, even if it’s difficult for you to step into their business. If it’s difficult for you now, imagine what it will be like in ten or fifteen years.
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