I’ve been reading Deida’s The Way of the Superior Man, and it struck me as one of those books which I wish I would have gotten before I got married. It may not apply to everyone. In fact, it most certainly does not. But it does apply to me and to the relationship I am in. It applies to it big time, and I suppose I should thank my lucky stars and guardians for bringing it to me when they did. And I should also thank my friend Ike who gave it to me. He read it when he was only 22, the dumbass, and his relationships have been affected it by it to a great extent. And looking back, I can see how. Like I said, it is not a book for everyone, but if you are able to give into it and sink into it, and take it as it is with no judgement until you are over with it – well, there is a lot to learn from it, even if you don’t choose to follow it to a tee.
It has a few chapters whose titles grabbed me as soon as I read them in the table of contents. Chapters like Tolerating Her Ends Up Resenting Her, and Live as if Your Father is Dead are ones which you cannot stay indifferent to. They hit home, and they hit hard. We all have some kinds of deficiencies which fester inside us, and this book has a way of pinpointing some of the root causes and origins of these feeling we have. It is subtitled as “A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire”. Now THAT is what I am talking about. And it does that. It does for me anyway, and for many other guys out there. This book is not just for guys, and not just got couples, and certainly not only for heterosexual couples. It is meant for anyone who wants to learn more about their nature, and about the nature of the opposite sex. And this is not a question of gender or biology, but more of energies. We can see there are men with more feminine energies, and women with more masculine energies. It is all a question of emphasis and of cultivation.
It is a book I will be reading and re-reading for many years, and I will always be drawing inspirtation from it, at least until I feel I am changed. It is a great read, and I highly recommend it.